Author Archives: Think:Kids Staff

Watch Your Language!

How Lazy Language Harms Kids J. Stuart Ablon Ph.D. I’m a bit of a stickler for language. I often have to resist my urge to irritatingly correct people’s grammar. But one thing I try not to resist correcting is lazy language that harms kids. When kids behave poorly, we often throw around pat phrases as

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Time to Stop Blaming Parent for Kids’ Behavior

Research explains what (not who!) is really to blame for challenging behavior. J. Stuart Ablon Ph.D. As a child psychologist, who specializes in helping kids with challenging behavior, I hear how often we parents take the blame for our kids’ behavior, whether the behavior happens at home, at school or anywhere else. I can’t really blame folks

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A Different Take on How to Stop Bullying

Bullying a bully doesn’t work. Here’s what does. Now that bullying prevention programs are required in our schools, students who are the victims of bullying are finally getting the empathy and attention they deserve. The work, however, shouldn’t stop there. Behind most bullying programs is the fundamental assumption that students who bully are choosing to do so in order

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The Best Way to Stay Calm Amid Challenging Behavior

By: Dr. Stuart Ablon, Director of Think:Kids As a psychologist specializing in working with kids and adolescents with very challenging behavior, I spend a lot of time thinking about how to help kids stay “regulated,” which in essence means calm in the midst of frustration or over-excitement. I have the great fortune of doing a

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The Challenge of Viral Challenges

Listening to the other person’s perspective is a key ingredient in the Collaborative Problem Solving approach and in today’s digital era, listening to your child can help adults better understand some of the confusing, social pressures kids face online. With the rise of social media where web-based challenges can go viral and reach millions in an instant,

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