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<pubDate>Sun, 31 Jan 2010 15:52:13 GMT</pubDate>
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<title>Message from rolo123</title>
<description><![CDATA[I'd just like to add my support with JML. My boy is nearly 5 and has an extreme response when he can't get want he wants but plan B is working (not all the time but most of it). Even today we managed to pre-empt an explosion in a gift shop without buying a toy by planning to look for things he could add to his 'birthday list'- goals achieved! Admittedly he then had an explosion outside when he hurt himself after doing something I'd asked him not to do but at least the episode was 'managed' and nobody else was hurt in the process. <br/>Sounds like you don't get much of a break from your girl Amy. Maybe things will get better when she goes to school. Kids start school at 4 in the UK and my boy manages to hold it together at school most of the time- so I have a worry-free few hours each day and a feel a little re-charged before he gets home like a whirlwind! You'll need to take some time for yourself and your new baby. <br/>Sounds like you have a supportive husband- as for the rest of your friends- they are obviously not helping you. I only wish they are blessed with a child with challenging behaviour in the future. All I can say is read the book and then pass it around to all those closest to you. I've got 2 copies that are currently circulating around family and friends- their attitudes have changed since reading it. <br/><br/>It does sound like you need a large hug. Wipe your tears and begin to start a new period of NOT blamming yourself- you have friends here who understand eaxactly what you are feeling.<br/>Take care,<br/>Michelle]]></description>
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<title>Message from JML</title>
<description><![CDATA[Hi 4kidsmom.....My daughter was about 4 yrs when she began with this behavior....one of the episodes when she was about 5 yrs old was we had gone out shopping she of course threw a fit because she was not getting what she wanted....she ran fron me in the store. I had my son who was a baby at that time. I finally found her picked her up and had her under one arm.....she bit my hand countless times leaving the store. I finally had to let go of her when we got outside...of course she ran from me. I finally retrieved her and got her into the car seat. She kicked the seat all the way home.....got out her car seat neumerous times. It was awful. when we got home I was hysterical and crying. I got her in the house and she ran through the rooms and leveled every single item that was on a table or dresser or stand.....she finally passed out because she was exhausted....and by the way this is one incident in about a million that I could write about! So trust me when I say that you are definitely not alone. Everything you are feeling I have been there...done it. However there is a saving grace in this. Your daughter is 5 and you have discovered this site and are reading the book. My other child isn't like this but yet I let people over the years convince me that I was a horrible parent and that if I just showed her who was boss she wouldn't act like this! So for years I didn't do anything but work on my parenting and took every failure as my own....so you are in a good place because your daughter is 5yrs old not 12 1/2....so now you can help her. You came in after I have talked about my anger. I am very angry about the system and people telling you it is our fault as parents...How dare they??? I had a friend/client tell me the other day that how do you think you are a failure as a parent? I went through everything about my daughter and she said.....your son doesn't act like that as a matter of fact traditional parenting works fine with him....so maybe its not your parenting...maybe it is the child. I have cried I think everyday since she started acting this way....around 3-4yrs old. Since I read the book and have begun using the techniques... I am here to say I am not crying every day!!!! We are starting to have some good days and that is amazing! Hang in there. Youa re not alone in this!!!!]]></description>
<pubDate>Sun, 31 Jan 2010 10:13:57 GMT</pubDate>
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<title>Message from 4kidsmom</title>
<description><![CDATA[Wow! I am so glad to have found this place. My 5 year old daughter has been breaking my heart for about 2 years now. She blows up all the time over everything. too much to even type. I mean EVERYTHING!! It is so heartbreaking and I cry on a daily basis. I have a 15 year old son and a 14 year old son and am 8 months pregnant as well. I have had to pretty much cut off contact with all of my friends and family. Because they all blame me for the way she acts. I feel like such a failure. There is never a conversation with friends or family that they don't put their 2 cents in. I get so tired of being blamed for it that I don't return calls or visit them anymore because it hurts me so bad. My daughter can be the sweetest thing at times. I love her so much and I have prayed and prayed for answers and then I stumbled across this website. It hurts me so bad to know that my family doesn't even want us around because of her behavior. They think that I should just whip her with a belt and that would solve it all. I'll admit, I have whipped her and it only makes things worse. i have gotten to point of yelling at her constantly and I end up just doing everything for her which is getting hard at my stage in pregnancy. I have no help from friends or family whatsoever. Everyone says they can't handle the little "demon". Her Dad is not in her life but she has a wonderful step dad. I am going to buy the explosive child tomorrow. It has gotten so bad I have confined myself to the house. I cannot take her shopping, to the park or any of the fun things that kids like to do because she picks fights with other kids or throws tantrums in the store if she don't get what she wants. I wanted to involve her as much as possible with my pregnancy but i can't take her to the DR with me because she acts so out of control. Briberies don't even work with her. We are in the process of getting her tested for ADHD. I feel so blessed to have found this. I hate the idea of putting her on medicine. She is very articulate and artistic and I don't want the meds to take that from her. She is also very smart for her age. She can even make up songs of the top of her head and sing. It is beautiful. I am so confused. My boys are not like this at all. Since all of my friends and family blame me, my self esteem has suffered and I have became very depressed. I make up excuses not to go to our family get togethers because I don't want to be blamed. It's like the whole time we are there, every member of the family is giving me advice and telling me how much better their kids are than mine. My mom, who has never even spent a day with her in 5 years, even made the comment that someone has done something terrible to this child to make her act this way! My daughter has been given so much love and attention by myself and one set of older friends that I have. She has never been mistreated in any way...except maybe my yelling at her too much lately. I have never dumped her off on people and rarely get a babysitter unless its absolutely neccesarry. I do not work, so I am home with her all day. If I try to talk to friends on the phone, I can't even talk about my daughter because they are all giving me their parenting advice and some of them don't even have children! I was at a friends house recently where the friends dog kept licking my daughters face trying to get her to play and my friend said get her out of her before I kill her! And this friend is in college to be a child therapist!!!! Another friend offered to adopt her because my parenting skills are so bad. i don't understand how my teens turned out so well if it is all my fault. No one understands and I'm so glad I found a place where other people do. Bless you all and I think God has answered my prayers.]]></description>
<pubDate>Sat, 30 Jan 2010 05:45:11 GMT</pubDate>
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