4kidsmom
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1/30/2010 5:44:24 AM
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New and Confused
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Wow! I am so glad to have found this place. My 5 year old daughter has been breaking my heart for about 2 years now. She blows up all the time over everything. too much to even type. I mean EVERYTHING!! It is so heartbreaking and I cry on a daily basis. I have a 15 year old son and a 14 year old son and am 8 months pregnant as well. I have had to pretty much cut off contact with all of my friends and family. Because they all blame me for the way she acts. I feel like such a failure. There is never a conversation with friends or family that they don't put their 2 cents in. I get so tired of being blamed for it that I don't return calls or visit them anymore because it hurts me so bad. My daughter can be the sweetest thing at times. I love her so much and I have prayed and prayed for answers and then I stumbled across this website. It hurts me so bad to know that my family doesn't even want us around because of her behavior. They think that I should just whip her with a belt and that would solve it all. I'll admit, I have whipped her and it only makes things worse. i have gotten to point of yelling at her constantly and I end up just doing everything for her which is getting hard at my stage in pregnancy. I have no help from friends or family whatsoever. Everyone says they can't handle the little "demon". Her Dad is not in her life but she has a wonderful step dad. I am going to buy the explosive child tomorrow. It has gotten so bad I have confined myself to the house. I cannot take her shopping, to the park or any of the fun things that kids like to do because she picks fights with other kids or throws tantrums in the store if she don't get what she wants. I wanted to involve her as much as possible with my pregnancy but i can't take her to the DR with me because she acts so out of control. Briberies don't even work with her. We are in the process of getting her tested for ADHD. I feel so blessed to have found this. I hate the idea of putting her on medicine. She is very articulate and artistic and I don't want the meds to take that from her. She is also very smart for her age. She can even make up songs of the top of her head and sing. It is beautiful. I am so confused. My boys are not like this at all. Since all of my friends and family blame me, my self esteem has suffered and I have became very depressed. I make up excuses not to go to our family get togethers because I don't want to be blamed. It's like the whole time we are there, every member of the family is giving me advice and telling me how much better their kids are than mine. My mom, who has never even spent a day with her in 5 years, even made the comment that someone has done something terrible to this child to make her act this way! My daughter has been given so much love and attention by myself and one set of older friends that I have. She has never been mistreated in any way...except maybe my yelling at her too much lately. I have never dumped her off on people and rarely get a babysitter unless its absolutely neccesarry. I do not work, so I am home with her all day. If I try to talk to friends on the phone, I can't even talk about my daughter because they are all giving me their parenting advice and some of them don't even have children! I was at a friends house recently where the friends dog kept licking my daughters face trying to get her to play and my friend said get her out of her before I kill her! And this friend is in college to be a child therapist!!!! Another friend offered to adopt her because my parenting skills are so bad. i don't understand how my teens turned out so well if it is all my fault. No one understands and I'm so glad I found a place where other people do. Bless you all and I think God has answered my prayers.
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1/30/2010 5:45:11 AM
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5 year old
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Wow! I am so glad to have found this place. My 5 year old daughter has been breaking my heart for about 2 years now. She blows up all the time over everything. too much to even type. I mean EVERYTHING!! It is so heartbreaking and I cry on a daily basis. I have a 15 year old son and a 14 year old son and am 8 months pregnant as well. I have had to pretty much cut off contact with all of my friends and family. Because they all blame me for the way she acts. I feel like such a failure. There is never a conversation with friends or family that they don't put their 2 cents in. I get so tired of being blamed for it that I don't return calls or visit them anymore because it hurts me so bad. My daughter can be the sweetest thing at times. I love her so much and I have prayed and prayed for answers and then I stumbled across this website. It hurts me so bad to know that my family doesn't even want us around because of her behavior. They think that I should just whip her with a belt and that would solve it all. I'll admit, I have whipped her and it only makes things worse. i have gotten to point of yelling at her constantly and I end up just doing everything for her which is getting hard at my stage in pregnancy. I have no help from friends or family whatsoever. Everyone says they can't handle the little "demon". Her Dad is not in her life but she has a wonderful step dad. I am going to buy the explosive child tomorrow. It has gotten so bad I have confined myself to the house. I cannot take her shopping, to the park or any of the fun things that kids like to do because she picks fights with other kids or throws tantrums in the store if she don't get what she wants. I wanted to involve her as much as possible with my pregnancy but i can't take her to the DR with me because she acts so out of control. Briberies don't even work with her. We are in the process of getting her tested for ADHD. I feel so blessed to have found this. I hate the idea of putting her on medicine. She is very articulate and artistic and I don't want the meds to take that from her. She is also very smart for her age. She can even make up songs of the top of her head and sing. It is beautiful. I am so confused. My boys are not like this at all. Since all of my friends and family blame me, my self esteem has suffered and I have became very depressed. I make up excuses not to go to our family get togethers because I don't want to be blamed. It's like the whole time we are there, every member of the family is giving me advice and telling me how much better their kids are than mine. My mom, who has never even spent a day with her in 5 years, even made the comment that someone has done something terrible to this child to make her act this way! My daughter has been given so much love and attention by myself and one set of older friends that I have. She has never been mistreated in any way...except maybe my yelling at her too much lately. I have never dumped her off on people and rarely get a babysitter unless its absolutely neccesarry. I do not work, so I am home with her all day. If I try to talk to friends on the phone, I can't even talk about my daughter because they are all giving me their parenting advice and some of them don't even have children! I was at a friends house recently where the friends dog kept licking my daughters face trying to get her to play and my friend said get her out of her before I kill her! And this friend is in college to be a child therapist!!!! Another friend offered to adopt her because my parenting skills are so bad. i don't understand how my teens turned out so well if it is all my fault. No one understands and I'm so glad I found a place where other people do. Bless you all and I think God has answered my prayers.
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